This links to something written by Pastor Joost Nixon of Spokane, WA. Good words.
the deficiencies of Western culture is that there
is no objective marker for young men to know when
they have passed from "boy" to "man." . . . But what this ambiguity
about adulthood does, practically, is leave our mature males to be "boys-in-men's-bodies";
irresponsible, piddling around with follies,
instead of moving the football of cultural
dominion down the field and into the end zone."
Read it. http://biblicalchildrearing.blogspot.com/2012/10/piddling-with-follies.html?spref=fb